“If we hand out money freely, most kids will take it, and it won’t take long for them to acquire the habit of keeping their hands out for more. If we require a little sweat and hard work, we are flipping a switch and beginning to do away with the ‘you owe me’ mentality.” – Kristen Welch in Raising Grateful Kids in an Entitled World
Kids ask their parents for new things all the time. For a while it was fidget spinners and fidget cubes – whatever the latest trend – and kids seem to find a way into talking their parents into buying the latest and greatest.
According to Kristen Welch in her book about raising grateful kids, giving in to their requests (even if the item is only a few dollars) every time they ask will only feed their “you owe me” mentality.
Rather, parents who want to raise grateful kids should think about the future consequences of freely handing out money or gifts (on a regular basis).
For example, the next time your kid asks for the latest trend, ask them these questions:
1. Why do you want this?
2. How long will you keep the item?
3. Do you have enough money to buy this?
4. Would you be willing to work for this item or wait till your next birthday or Christmas?
By asking these questions, parents can teach kids how to make their own consumer decisions. In the future, don’t we all want our kids (and ourselves) to make better consumer decisions and be grateful at the same time? The two really go hand in hand. Practice these questions and see your kids, as Kristen Welch would say, “flip that switch” in no time.
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